Preparation
I spend a fair amount of time sitting in the stands among the friends and family of my athletes and performers, which also means that I hear most of what they say to kids and coaches. While I won't relay everything I've heard, here are some representative examples:
- Perfection. You must be perfect.
- Get it together. You've got to want it.
- Run the ball (or pass . . . or shoot)!
- That's on you, coach!
- Come on!
Suffice it to say, coaching from the stands is neither effective nor helpful. First, there is a good chance that the only people hearing the CitS (Coach in the Stands) are those sitting around the CitS, and they don't want to hear it. Second, not only can a CitS be a distraction, they often provide conflicting information, leading to doubt and hesitation. Picture your workplace, but add tens, hundreds, or even thousands of people yelling different directions at you. You wouldn't know what to do, either. Third, it takes the fun out of the game . . . for everyone involved. Finally, no one is intentionally trying to screw up. They're doing the best that they know.
If you aspire to be a great CitS, whether it's before, during, or after the game, be sure to say:
- I love you!
- I love to watch you play.
- Have fun!
- Great effort!
- Keep working!
- Where should we eat (after the game)?
Finally, remember to coach with a smile and enthusiastic body language. If you do these things, you'll be a master CitS.