How's the voice in your head? Or rather, how are the voices in your head? The 4C's of self-talk are the Critic, the Coach, the Cheerleader, and the Counselor. Much like our tendency to focus on problems, it's the Critic who dominates 3/4 of our self-talk, when it needs to be the other three. My challenge to you is to notice who is speaking, and them name the speaker, "I see what you're trying to do, Critic." Doing so creates space that allows the more helpful voices chime in. In his excellent book Chatter, Ethan Kross describes how using your name is also helpful. Speak to yourself as if you're giving advice to someone else - "Mark, you've done the work. Remember your cues and crush it." So start talking to yourself instead of listening to yourself.